I believe you are pretty close to the mark in all your statements. I number my statements for purposes of discussion. Not to be preachy.
1) A starting point is that surround is not quad sound. We're not trying to create a rear channel(s). Maybe everyone knows that but newcomers to surround seem to want to put surrounds in the back.
2) Surround channel sound is a) suppose to come from everywhere in the room and b) not come from a single source which our ears can localize. The last means that an ordinary speaker on each side wall will not do very well.
3) What is fed into the surround channel should be room revereration from the hall, ambient sound like chatter in a restaurant, or ambient outdoor sounds like birds chirping. Sometimes bullets wizzing.
4) Sometimes airplanes coming out of the screen or toward the screen (our reference in viewing) is also sonically presented. Then there are bullet wizzing too. This sort of thing is the somewhat rare situation where there is interplay (panning) between the ambient and mains.
5) As you point out, movie theaters use multiple speakers. Mostly on the sides with a few at the back. Per 1). Note they are usually aimed over the audience rather than directly at them.
6) But, there ARE multiple speakers in theaters for surround. Therefore the surround sound is spread out and difficult to localize as one source; 'cause it does not come from one source.
7) In the home setting, there is the problem that most people don't use six or nine surround speakers. Of course that would work.
8) Looking at 2) again, we would like a speaker which a) paints the room walls with sound very well and therefore has broad dispursion (so we have a lot of reflections from everywhere) and b) does not direct sound (at least relative to dispursed sound) directly to the listener. The parenthetical is important. Some of this is relative levels at the listener.
9) Most direct radiator speakers have a narrowing polar projection as frequency goes up, so they are not good at wide dispursion and do project in a direction, probably toward the listener. Note, multiple speakers in theaters avoid this by just having so many.
10) As you point out, dipoles (two drivers in a box facing left and right fed out of phase, or one without a baffle) have the the characteristic figure 8 polar pattern. If the listener is in the null, no sound (or, actually, two out of phase signals) gets to the listener.
All that is heard is sound which has been directed, otherwise, into the room and bounces off walls. I understand that the first experiments with surround at home were done with Magnaplaners (sp) with the listener in the nulls.
11) Dipoles can work very well, if the listener is in the null. It makes for a small sweet spot (say anti-sweet spot).
12) The Klipsch wide dispursion uses two identical 90 degree horns fed in phase to make sure there is as much dispursion as possible. I think there is no null or even a roll off in the combined pattern at the listener. Again this is a relative thing. The good part is that placement of the speaker and listener is less critical. We are trying to paint all the walls with sound. The small direct radiator is too small to be directional at low freqs, so it is wide dispursion too.
13) There is rumor that Klispch wide dispursion technology will be used in movie theaters. Theater owners, like home owners, would rather buy fewer speakers.
14) Reports on the classic Bose 901s (?) are pretty much as you report. For the benefit of others here, they had eight speakers at the rear of the box and one in front. Some equalization to be put in the amps tape loop circuit. And they were meant to be put on stands well out in the room. They did put up a strong ambient field which was not common in those days. But it was mostly a matter of special effects via the speaker. Equalization may have helped what was otherwise an system with limited response.
15) There is a humorous joke about this. Mr. Klipsch and Dr. Bose see each other on opposite sides of the street. Klipsch cups his hands in front of his mouth (a horn) and says in a soft, effective, voice "Hello Dr. Bose." Dr. Bose turns around 180 degress and shouts, "Hello, Mr. Klipsch."
Gil